Words from songs

Hey all, most of you know that I am a music nut. Yep, love music...and many different kinds of music. Sure I listen to lots of Christian music, and I usually sing that the most, but I do listen to a lot of other kinds of music. I wanted to write about some of the songs I have listened to lately...because the words hit me right in the heart.
A few weeks ago, Amanda and I were talking about music...yeah...shocker...hahaha...and she mentioned Nickleback's new hit...Gotta be Somebody...and so we listened to it. The thing that struck us the most....a man was singing this. Here we were, two single women...dreaming of having a man in our lives who would love us, and not leave us.....and we are listening to a man sing a song about hoping that there was somebody out there...so you wonder why we were soooo surprised? Because it has been our experience that a man would never admit he was lonely, or wanted to love someone. The men we know would laugh or scoff at love. They would demean it or belittle love or anyone who dreams of loving someone. Yep...that is true...the majority of men we know are like that. As we were sitting there in the ambulance listening to the very sexy voice of Nickleback ( I just happened to love the gravely sound of their voices...wow!)..we couldn't help but be amazed that this band sang a song about looking and hoping for someone. Sure...many singers have...but it was something about this very male sound singing those words that blew us away. Thus it started a discussion about whether men ever really think about being with someone...loving someone...finding someone they would give their all for...and unfortunately....that list was pathetically short. And I mean...short!
Well, that song has really stuck with me...and I bought the CD last weekend...and after I got home from Sioux Falls for Thanksgiving, I sat in my bedroom and listened to the CD. I will be the first person to shout that I am a romantic. I will be the first person to say that I put my heart and soul into things with great passion. I will be the first one to say that when I love, I love deeply and passionately. I will be the first person to say....I laugh at sappy chick flilcks that have the "sigh" happily ever after ending....gag! I believe that great love is fought hard for...with deep passion and fire. As I was listening to this CD...I found myself wondering why men don't go for the woman or love with a fire in their hearts. Now don't start wondering if my dating life has taken a turn for the worse...it hasn't...and I am not going to fill this blog up with man bashing statements. I just want to voice these questions..."Why don't men fight for women?" Why do men hate women? Why do men make fun of love? What happened to them that they don't see a woman worth fighting to the ends of the earth for?
So many of my girlfriends have suffered at the hands or words of men in their lives who seek to destroy them and kill love...instead of seeking to fight to their last breath for the woman they love. It makes me really sad...and it makes it hard for me as a dating woman to believe that my hearts desire could really come true. Today it seems that men scoff at a woman who has any depth or passion within her....because they look at her as too much to deal with...and they don't want to ever have to fight to defend or protect her....they want the 18 or 21 year old barbie who has no depth, no character or passion....because then they won't have to worry about any expectations from her. Men look at women like me as someone "too hard to control or deal with" because I live from my heart...I have character and depth, as do my friends. So over the years, many of us have started to lose hope that there really is anything of character or depth in a man's heart. We have experienced the treachery of their words...in an effort to dominate us and destroy us...they do not hold us women in any high regard at all...and you can hear that in their nasty words about women. Women have become a subject of scorn...and when men talk about women and women's hopes or dreams of getting married...it is with distain or contempt...putting down those hopes...laughing at them or calling them names for ever wanting to be married...as if we women are repulsive and not worth a marriage...only worth the sex. I can't tell you how many times I have heard these words from the mouths of men themselves...and from the hearts of women who have been so hurt by those words. So as women we try to give men everything they want...in the hopes of maybe getting a little morsel of happiness for ourselves...and when we ask for something for us....we are put down or judged. It is a wonder that any woman grows up wanting to fall in love and get married. So I have wondered how we as women can change this. I am not going to lay all of the blame at the feet of men. And I am very much aware that there are men who have depth of character...who do love and love deeply and treat their wives with absolute love and respect...willing to give their all to protect the women they love....I have met some of those men...so I know they are out there. So it is not my intent to use this blog to trash men. Just to ask the questions...the questions that most women carry in their hearts and are terrified of very voicing...."Will I ever be loved? Will a man ever accept my love? Will I be thrown away if I give from the depths of my heart? And this one..."don't men desire and seek love too?" Those are the questions...and I am sure there are many more. I pray at night for God to restore to the heart of men and women a respect for each other and for love to become something of value again for both men and women. I long for the day when I don't hear the words from a man..."All a woman wants is to get married."..and it is said with disgust. I long for the day when the man says..."I would marry my wife over every day of my life!" Wouldn't that be awesome!!
I know there are some women who are truly man haters and they distrust every man they meet...and that makes me sad...for them and for the men...how horrible for the men to receive hate over and over from women! But I do believe that there are women out there who still have the longing deep within them to love....not just be loved....but to LOVE someone...to be THEIR joy..to give to SOMEONE and not just take....that is me....I haven't been praying for years..."God bring me a husband...it is about me giving...not taking...I have been praying God show me how to be a wife and let me be a wife to someone someday....and I believe that there are many women who want the same thing. If only we could make men trust us with their hearts...if only we could show them we will not seek to destroy a man's heart...but to treat it as a precious treasure...and something to fight for and something to defend. It is what we as women hope for as well.
Call me a romantic. Call me hopeless. Call me silly. But I still love the real stories of love...the ones that were truly fought for....
Here is a song off the CD by Nickleback that is an example of fighting for love....
I'd Come For You
Just one more moment
That's all that's needed
LIke wounded soldiers
In need of healing
Time to be honest
This time I'm pleading
Please don't dwell on it
Cause I didn't mean it

I can't believe I said
I'd lay our love on the ground
But it doesn't matter 'cause
I make it up forgive me now
And everyday I spend away
My soul's inside out
Gotta be some way
That I can make it up
By now you know that

(chorus)
I'd come for you
No one but you
Yes I'd come for you
but only if you told me to
I'd fight for you
I'd lie it's true
Give my life for you
You know I'll always come for you

I was blindfolded
But now I'm seeing
My mind was closing
Now I'm believing

I finally know just what it means
To let someone in
To see the side of me
That no one does or ever will
So if you're ever lost and
Find yourself all alone
I'd search forever
Just to bring you home
Here and now
This I vow
By now you know that

No matter what gets in my way
As long as there's still life in me
No matter what, remember
You know I'll always come for you

NO matter what gets in my way
As long as there's still life in me
No matter what remember
You know I'll always come for you

I'd crawl across this world for you
Do anything you want me to
No matter what, remember

You know I'll always come for you
You know I'll always come for you.

wow...huh!? I just want to suggest to you that this song could be the song in the heart of any woman or man...why not???? Wouldn't it be something if more men and women sang this to each other...isn't this possibly what God intended for love between a man and woman to be like?
Just my thoughts! You see I still have hope that it will be this way for me someday....and I intend to fight for it......I do have much to give....I want to give....I am hoping for each one of you as well.
Love you
Lorrie